Gavin de Becker, "The Gift of Fear: And Other Survival Signals that Protect Us From Violence" (1997). Read it. Your instincts will thank you.
In the wild, a gazelle that ignores the rustle in the grass becomes a lion’s lunch. A meerkat that dismisses the shadow circling overhead is erased from the clan. Their fear is not a weakness; it is a finely tuned instrument of survival. The gift of fear- survival signals that protect...
"I'll just put these groceries on your counter and leave, I promise." A promise is often used to mask an intent. If someone feels the need to promise they won't do something harmful, it’s because they know that harm is exactly what you are fearing. Overcoming the "Politeness" Trap Gavin de Becker, "The Gift of Fear: And
: Offering unsolicited help to create a sense of social obligation or debt, making it difficult for the victim to say "no" later. In the wild, a gazelle that ignores the