Key psychological benefits reported by participants include:
The golden rule of ABDL, shared by almost every member, is (private). As long as no one is hurt, no laws are broken, and children are not involved, the way an adult chooses to unwind is their own business. Diaper Lovers are attracted to the physical sensation,
The "DL" side of the community focuses primarily on the garment itself—the diaper. Diaper Lovers are attracted to the physical sensation, the bulkiness, the crinkle of the plastic, the convenience, or the aesthetic of wearing a diaper. For many DLs, there is no "age regression" involved. They may wear diapers under their everyday clothes while working a desk job, running errands, or sleeping. Many participants link their interests to early childhood
Many participants link their interests to early childhood experiences. Some exploratory studies suggest associations with anxious traits or recollections of parental rejection, though these are not universal. though these are not universal.