Codependency is often described as "the dis-ease of the lost self." It is a behavioral condition where a person’s self-worth and identity are contingent on the approval and validation of others—often someone who is struggling with addiction, mental illness, or irresponsibility. While the 12 Steps were originally created by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) for alcoholics, they were adapted by Codependents Anonymous (CoDA) to treat the "addiction" to people, relationships, and control.
“I realize I paid your bills without asking, which took away your autonomy. Going forward, I will ask before offering help.” codependents guide to the 12 steps pdf
In this comprehensive guide, we will break down the CoDA 12 Steps, explaining how they apply specifically to codependency. Whether you are looking for a downloadable PDF to carry with you or simply a deep dive into the literature, this article serves as your roadmap to recovery. Codependency is often described as "the dis-ease of
Read Step 3 prayer from the PDF. Ask: Who am I trying to control today? Going forward, I will ask before offering help
List three ways you have tried to control a loved one’s feelings this week. What happened? How did it feel to fail?