Self-sabotag... | The Mountain Is You - Transforming

Gay Hendricks coined the term "Upper Limit Problem," which Wiest expands upon. Each of us has an internal thermostat for how much happiness, success, and love we believe we deserve. When our life exceeds that internal setting, we unconsciously trigger a crisis to bring us back down to a level that feels "normal." You might self-sabotage a great relationship not because you fear intimacy, but because you subconsciously believe you aren't "worthy" of that much affection.

When you look at a mountain and feel fear, the mountain is neutral; the fear is inside you. When you look at a goal and feel unworthy, the goal is neutral; the unworthiness is inside you. The external world is simply a mirror reflecting your internal landscape. The Mountain Is You - Transforming Self-Sabotag...

: Healing requires building the mental and emotional skills to process stored trauma Gay Hendricks coined the term "Upper Limit Problem,"

Self-sabotage is the act of behaving in ways that create problems and interfere with long-standing goals. It is the voice that says, “You don’t deserve this,” right as success arrives. It is the hand that reaches for the cigarette after a month of quitting. It is the argument you pick with your partner just when things were getting calm and secure. When you look at a mountain and feel